Facing Codependence

Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery.

Author: Pia Mellody

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062031805

Category: Self-Help

Page: 272

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Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.

Breaking Free

Now in this innovative new workbook, she presents a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence.

Author: Pia Mellody

Publisher: HarperOne

ISBN: 9780062505903

Category: Self-Help

Page: 448

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In her pioneering Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody traced the origins of codependence back to childhood and a wide range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Now in this innovative new workbook, she presents a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence. Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous, Breaking Free provides strategies and insights for attacking the fundamental problem in codependence--the lack of dependence on self. In a three-part approach to recovery, Mellody first shows recovering codependents how to move beyond denial of their childhood history of abuse. She then offers techniques to identify concrete ways in which the symptoms of codependence operate in their lives. Finally, Mellody guides users through the process of identifying and recording specific instances of improvement in their lives as an aid to greater self-awareness and further recovery.

Facing Codependence

Discusses the symptoms of codependence, explains how child abuse and dysfunctional family life can cause the condition, and suggests a path toward recovery.

Author: Pia Mellody

Publisher: Turtleback Books

ISBN: 9781417702534

Category: Family & Relationships


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Following the phenomenal of Codependent No More, here is a brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction.

The Mother and the Manager

Uncovering the Codependent Nature of Our Male and Female Gender Roles Elizabeth Ralston ... 8 Mellody, Miller and Miller, Facing Codependence, 7.

Author: Elizabeth Ralston

Publisher: Balboa Press

ISBN: 1452595267

Category: Self-Help

Page: 220

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In The Mother And The Manager Elizabeth Ralston courageously explores how our traditional gender roles create codependent behaviors in men and women and offers positive, workable solutions toward dealing with this problem. The Mother And The Manager takes an in-depth look at how our society has evolved and impacted gender roles into the twenty-first century. As 12-Step recovery groups have flourished in recent years, women have been educated about why they have issues such as low self-esteem, perfectionism, rigidity, relationship failures, inability to get their needs met and fear of conflict. Elizabeth has bravely shared about how patriarchy has impacted her life and how recovery has helped her to empower and heal herself. She will help many who are searching for answers to their questions and will help them on the road to recovery. I salute her ability to face her fears about “rocking the boat” in writing this book and taking the risk to speak her truth and stay on her God-inspired path.” Ginger S. Edwards, Licensed Professional Counselor, Licensed Addictions Specialist Specializing in Codependency and Trauma

Confessions of a Codependent

... Buddy by Greg Behrendt 86 Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt Beyond Fear: A Toltec Guide to Freedom and Joy by Mary Carroll Nelson Facing Codependence: What It Is, ...

Author: Jacqueline Williams

Publisher: iUniverse

ISBN: 0595400868

Category: Self-Help

Page: 116

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After enduring more than her share of codependent relationships, author Jacqueline Williams knew she needed to change her behavior patterns. Through a great deal of soul-searching, therapy, and prayer, Williams came to understand her codependency and how to eradicate it from her relationships.Written especially for women, Confessions of a Codependent: How to Identify and Eliminate Unhealthy Relationships defines codependent relationships, explains why they are so self-destructive, and explores why these relationships can at times lead to physical violence.Confessions of a Codependent shares other women's stories of codependent, abusive, and/or dysfunctional relationships, as well as the ways these women were able to leave them and move on to healthier partnerships. Confessions of a Codependent also includes practical advice on how to recognize signs that your relationship may be heading toward emotional and/or physical abuse, how to move away from self-defeating and self-destructive behaviors, and resources that you can use to escape a codependent relationship.If you're struggling in your current relationship and feel trapped by codependency, break the cycle with Confessions of a Codependent!

Cold Blooded Kindness

Neuroquirks of a Codependent Killer, or Just Give Me a Shot at Loving You, Dear, ... works onthe subject was the 1989 book Facing Codependence: What It Is, ...

Author: Barbara Oakley, PhD

Publisher: Prometheus Books

ISBN: 1616144203

Category: Psychology

Page: 387

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In this searing exploration of deadly codependency, the author takes the reader on a spellbinding voyage of discovery that examines the questions: Are some people naturally too caring? Is caring sometimes a mask for darker motives? Can science help us understand how our concerns for others can hurt everything we hold dear? This gripping story brings extraordinary insight to our deepest questions. Is kindness always the right answer? Is kindness always what it seems?

Recovery from Anger Addiction

Melody Beattie, Codependent No More Codependent No More is another standard and ... work on codependence, along with its contemporary Facing Codependence.

Author: Verryl V. Fosnight

Publisher: Archway Publishing

ISBN: 1480827584

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 326

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This Book Presents a Paradigm Shift About Toxic Anger: Anger Is An Addiction Using the wisdoms of John Bradshaw, Pia Mellody, Claudia Black, Alice Miller, and many other recovery giants, Verryl grew to understand himself in the context of his past traumas. He was finally able to apply all the theories of these authors to heal his anger and rage. This expansion of theory to the emotion of toxic anger results in a revolutionary new concept of anger as an addiction. This paradigm shift empowers a person to recover from rage as an ill person seeking to be well, as opposed to a bad person trying to act better. Telling yourself you are a bad person is a self-defeating message to your inner self, but an ill person can get well. He presents this new, simple, and enlightened treatment for anger in easy to follow language. Ultimately these conclusions are illustrated as a set of simple diagrams that outline the full path of angers development starting from the core emotion of pain from early losses through raging behavior that is life damaging. Using the revolutionary model of anger as an addiction, he demonstrates that anger can be healed. There is no need to rationally manage toxic anger (while remaining a bad person). Toxic anger practically evaporates as an emotional impulse as the underlying pain is resolved in the good, but ill person. Included: Research survey paper on Anger Management classes by Desiree Harris, M. C.

Finding the Healer Within

Beyond Codependency : And Getting Better All the Time . San Francisco : Harper , 1989 . ... Breaking Free : A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence .

Author: Beth Moran

Publisher: Jones & Bartlett Learning

ISBN: 9780887376818

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 219

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Finding the Healer Within is a contemporary guide for women to take co ntrol of their health. "Listen to your body and seek out the informati on you need," says Beth Moran, to help in finding your healer within. Women will find the intelligence, honesty, and humor that Beth Moran b rings to her practice a very welcome discovery. These are firsthand ex periences and insights of a successful women's health nurse practition er, with a holistic emphasis. Includes extensive bibliography.

Pathological Altruism

... clinicians have trouble agreeing on definition of codependency, 68n4 May, ... 26 Mellody, Pia, co-author of Facing Codependence, 50 meme, 194, 232-233, ...

Author: Barbara Oakley

Publisher: OUP USA

ISBN: 0199738572

Category: Medical

Page: 465

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Pathological Altruism is a groundbreaking new book - the first to explore the negative aspects of altruism and empathy, seemingly uniformly positive traits. In fact, pathological altruism, in the form of an unhealthy focus on others to the detriment of one's own needs, may underpin some personality disorders. Hyperempathy - an excess of concern for what others think and how they feel - helps explain popular but poorly defined concepts such as codependency. The contributing authors of this book provide a scientific, social, and cultural foundation for the subject of pathological altruism, creating a new field of inquiry. Each author's approach points to one disturbing truth: what we value so much, the altruistic "good" side of human nature, can also have a dark side that we ignore at our peril.

My Eating Disorder

Facing. Codependence. A. CERTAIN THERAPIST FOR EATING disorders wrote many recovery books. ... I wanted to see what this codependency talk was all about.

Author: Branch Kimball

Publisher: Trafford Publishing

ISBN: 1490763228

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 314

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This book summarizes how anorexia and bulimia affected my life in the past and how it troubles my present. It has affected my relationships at home, school, and work. Indulging in behaviors brought me to rock bottom when I had to quit my job and nearly separated from my wife. I spent three months in residential treatment for my eating disorder. All my meals and bathroom breaks were monitored. I could not stop my behaviors on my own; I was literally addicted to them. This book also summarizes principles of recovery I used to help me fix the cognitive distortions that kept me blind from reality. It summarizes things I learned in residential that I hope all who struggle with an eating disorder, or any addictive behavior, can use. All names and places have been fictionalized at the request of my publisher. The stories are real.


Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comesfrom, How It Sabotages Our Lives. San Francisco, CA: Perennial, 1989. Mellody, Pia, Andrea Wells Miller, ...

Author: June Hunt

Publisher: Rose Publishing Inc

ISBN: 1596366516

Category: Religion

Page: 93

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You've heard plenty about getting hooked on drugs but can you really become addicted to a person? The answer is yes?codependency is a relationship addiction. A codependent is anyone who is dependent on another person to the point of being controlled or manipulated by that person. Learn how to be released from relationship addiction and have a renewed commitment to put Christ first. June Hunt starts this mini?book with stories of biblical people who ultimately compromised their relationship with God by being overly dependent on others, getting trapped in a codependent relationship. The last section titled Steps to Solution gives Biblical advice on how to keep away from idolatrous, or codependent relationships, such as recovery steps to confronting codependency, 7 steps to independent relationships, help from an unhealthy relationship, 7 principles for finding the road to relationship freedom, and much more. Paperback, 96 pages, 4 x 7 inches.

A Crash Course in Emotional Freedom

criticism in a relationship or at work, a codependent may think it's best to end it ... Facing codependence Pia Mellody's book 'Facing Codependence' is an ...

Author: Liisa Halme

Publisher: Balboa Press

ISBN: 150431896X

Category: Self-Help

Page: 226

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Liisa Halme read countless self-help books, attended dozens of seminars and did all the right things, but still found herself struggling with painful emotions and difficult relationships. Through decades of work she discovered the path that lead to the end of emotional suffering, internal chaos, and unfulfilling relationships – and she shares the exact steps in this crash course to emotional freedom. She answers questions such as: • How can you get to fully know yourself – and why is it essential? • How can you recognize, process and express emotions in a healthy way? • How can you stop dysfunctional relationship patterns and create more love and intimacy? Liisa covers everything you need to know in order to take life’s challenges in your stride and use them as opportunities for healing and transformation. Each juicy topic is packed into a short, easy to read, but slow to digest chapter. Drawing on humor and personal examples, she encourages you to discard beliefs that no longer serve you and embrace a new reality of freedom and choice. Change how you relate to yourself, your emotions and others – and fast-track your way to thriving with the practical lessons in this guide.

Self on the Shelf The

Kids who carry our pain: Breaking the cycle of codependency for the next ... Facing codependence: What it is, where it comes from, how it sabotages our ...

Author: Gary Greenberg

Publisher: SUNY Press

ISBN: 1438404751

Category: Psychology

Page: 287

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The Self on the Shelf examines the cultural and philosophical determinants of popular “recovery” books. Greenberg argues that this literature can be read as documents of the prevailing understanding of the self in American society. The construction of the self promoted by recovery literature is seen as a nihilistic one insofar as it denies the significance of what continental philosophy calls the Other. In this sense the self-help books are correct in their assertion that we have lost sight of how to love, but their proposed solution shows up as a recapitulation and strengthening of the conditions that gave rise to this situation in the first place. Greenberg’s critique provides a commentary on the difficulties that face our culture in achieving any sense of meaningful community, and on the way that this problem surfaces in a highly popular discourse.

Out Of The Woods

Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence, by Pia Mellody and others. ISBN 9780062505903. Agood, long, heavyduty processfor understanding ...

Author: Alan Heeks

Publisher: Hachette UK

ISBN: 1472110021

Category: Humor

Page: 272

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This book is a guide for the maturing man: complete with route-finder, service areas, scenic highlights and emergency callout advice. It gathers the best wisdom and experience of many men on enjoying your best years to the full, on the skills you need to handle the losses and shipwrecks, and on how to grow through them. It offers insights, inspiration, practical advice and resources for further help.The aim is simple: enjoy life now! The book offers wisdom from the unexpected, like a Wiltshire wood, football, Sufi mystics, car maintenance, and heroic myth. Topics in the book include: Change and renewal. A fresh look at relationships. Work, money - and fulfilment. Tackling health issues. Family Dynamics: ageing parents and lots more. Last Chance Saloon: addictions, anger, depression, alternatives. Dreams, dawns, dying, inspiration. Giving and receiving: friends, groups, communities. Sex: Yes you can! Maturing organically: sustaining your happiness, giving back. The book offers an easy, entertaining read to guide men through this new stage of life.It's also helpful for partners, family and friends who want to understand and support them.To handle new needs and challenges there are self test exercises, and further resource guides.


Moving Beyond Codependency Robert Weiss ... Facing codependence: What it is, where it comes from, how it sabotages our lives. HarperCollins.

Author: Robert Weiss

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 0757320368

Category: Self-Help

Page: 216

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Do you love an addict? Do you sometimes feel like their addiction is your fault? Are people calling you codependent? If our treatment toward loved ones of addicts alienates them, it's time we change our approach. With Prodependence, Dr. Robert Weiss offers us the first fully new paradigm in over 35 years for helping those who love and care for addicts. An attachment-focused model, prodependence recognizes that no one can ever love too much, nor should anyone be pathologized for whomever they choose to love as is often the case. Prodependence informs caregivers how to love more effectively, but without having to bear a negative label for the valuable support they give. When treating loved ones of addicts and other troubled people using prodependence, we need not find something "wrong" with them. Instead, we acknowledge the trauma and inherent dysfunction that occurs when living in relationship with someone whose life is failing and keep moving forward. Validating a caregiver's painful journey for what it is opens the door to support them in useful, non-shaming ways. Helping people take incremental, positive steps toward intimate healing is what Prodependence is all about!

Healing for the City

Love is a Choice: Recovery for Codependent Relationships. ... Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives.

Author: Craig Ellison

Publisher: Wipf and Stock Publishers

ISBN: 1579109799

Category: Religion

Page: 336

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'Healing for the City' is a book for counseling urban dwellers in need, whether they be inside or outside the church. It focuses on the brokenness and typical problems of urban dwellers without assuming that all who live in the city suffer from serious dysfunctions This book was written to offer guidance to those who counsel in an urban setting - to provide a response to the emotional, relational, and spiritual distress that one often encounters in the city. The three parts of the book treat the distinctive elements of the urban context, specific concerns of ethnic groups (Asian, Black, Hispanic), and approaches to particular pressing problems such as addictive behaviors, divorce, recovery, single parenting, sexual abuse, etc. 'Healing for the City' was written for pastors, social workers, counselors (professionals and paraprofessionals), and other Christians in positions of leadership and spiritual direction.

Facing Love Addiction reissue

Designed to be used with her new workbook for codependents, Breaking Free, this is a powerful tool for understanding the nature of codependence.

Author: Pia Mellody

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062031821

Category: Self-Help

Page: 272

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A brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction. In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia Mellody traces the origins of this illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships. Recovery from codependence comes from clearing up the toxic feelings left over from childhood and learning to reparent oneself by intervening on the adult symptoms of codependence. Central to Mellody's concept is the idea of the "precious child" that needs healing within each adult. She creates a framework for identifying codependent behavior and describes an effective approach to recovery that includes both therapy and self-help processes. Designed to be used with her new workbook for codependents, Breaking Free, this is a powerful tool for understanding the nature of codependence.

Coping With Codependency

Facing Codependence . San Francisco : Harper & Row , 1989 . Namka , Lynne . The Doormat Syndrome . Deerfield Beach , FL : Health Communications ...

Author: Kay Marie Porterfield

Publisher: The Rosen Publishing Group, Inc

ISBN: 9780823918133

Category: Juvenile Nonfiction

Page: 112

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Discusses the meaning of codependency, in which one individual depends upon another for emotional fulfillment, and examines effective ways of dealing with this situation and associated problems.

Everything You Need to Know about Codependency

Mellody , Pia . Facing Codependence . San Francisco : Harper San Francisco , 1989 . Porterfield , Kay Marie . Coping with Codependency . Rev. ed .

Author: Al Septien

Publisher: The Rosen Publishing Group

ISBN: 9780823925636

Category: Juvenile Nonfiction

Page: 64

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Discusses the unhealthy relationships that exist in some families and how to break the cycle of codependency.