Love s Executioner

In his classic, bestselling work, the masterful therapist and novelist Irvin Yalom describes his sometimes tragic, sometimes inspiring, and always absorbing encounters with patients In this classic book, master psychotherapist Irvin D. ...

Author: Irvin D. Yalom

Publisher: Basic Books

ISBN: 9780465020119

Category: Psychology

Page: 312

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This collection of ten absorbing tales by master psychotherapist Irvin D. Yalom uncovers the mysteries, frustrations, pathos, and humor at the heart of the therapeutic encounter. First published in 1989, this New York Times bestselling collection of ten tales has become a classic. Yalom not only gives us a rare and enthralling glimpse into his patients' personal desires and motivations, but also tells his own story as he struggles to reconcile his all-too-human response with his sensibility as a psychiatrist. Now with a new afterword, Love's Exectioner promises to inspire generations of readers to come.

Love s Executioner

"In [this book], psychotherapist Irvin Yalom gives accounts of his work with patients.

Author: Irvin D. Yalom

Publisher: Penguin Books

ISBN: 9780141975443

Category: Existential psychotherapy

Page: 288

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Why was Saul tormented by three unopened letters from Stockholm? What made Thelma spend her whole life raking over a long-past love affair? How did Carlos' macho fantasies help him deal with terminal cancer? In Love's Executioner psychotherapist Irvin Yalom gives detailed and deeply affecting accounts of his work with these and seven other patients. Their case histories lay bare human anxieties - isolation, fear of death or freedom, a sense of the meaninglessness of life - that few of us escape completely, and show how we can all come to terms with such fears. Throughout, Dr Yalom remains refreshingly frank about his own errors and prejudices; his book provides a rare glimpse into the consulting room of a master therapist. 'The best therapists are at least partly poets. With this riveting and beautifully written book, Yalom has joined their ranks.' Erica Jong 'Dr Yalom offers a vaulable insight into the delicate process of therapy.' Sunday Telegraph 'These remarkably moving and instructive tales of the psychiatric encounter bring the reader into novel territories of the mind - and the landscape is truly unforgettable.' Maggie Scarf 'Irvin Yalom writes like an angel about the devils that besiege us.' Rollo May 'Dr Yalom is unusually honest, both with his patients and about himself.' Anthony Storr

Love s Executioner

This collection of ten absorbing tales by a master psychotherapist uncovers the mysteries, frustrations, pathos, and humor at the heart of the therapeutic encounter.

Author: Irvin D. Yalom

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0060958340

Category: Medical

Page: 286

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This collection of ten absorbing tales by a master psychotherapist uncovers the mysteries, frustrations, pathos, and humor at the heart of the therapeutic encounter.

Love s Executioner

The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection. I hate to be love's executioner. Yet Thelma, in the opening minutes of our first interview, ...

Author: Irvin D. Yalom

Publisher: Penguin UK

ISBN: 0141975458

Category: Psychology

Page: 288

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Love's Executioner offers us the humane and extraordinary insight of renowned psychiatrist Irvin D. Yalom into the lives of ten of his patients - and through them into the minds of us all Why was Saul tormented by three unopened letters from Stockholm? What made Thelma spend her whole life raking over a long-past love affair? How did Carlos's macho fantasies help him deal with terminal cancer? In this engrossing book, Irvin Yalom gives detailed and deeply affecting accounts of his work with these and seven other patients. Deep down, all of them were suffering from the basic human anxieties - isolation, fear of death or freedom, a sense of the meaninglessness of life - that none of us can escape completely. And yet, as the case histories make touchingly clear, it is only by facing such anxieties head on that we can hope to come to terms with them and develop. Throughout, Dr Jalom remains refreshingly frank about his own errors and prejudices; his book provides a rare glimpse into the consulting room of a master therapist. 'Dr Yalom demonstrates once again that in the right hands, the stuff of therapy has the interest of the richest and most inventive fiction' Eva Hoffman, New York Times 'These remarkably moving and instructive tales of the psychiatric encounter bring the reader into novel territories of the mind - and the landscape is truly unforgettable' Maggie Scarf 'Love's Executioner is one of those rare books that suggests both the mystery and the poetry of the psychotherapeutic process. The best therapists are at least partly poets. With this riveting and beautifully written book, Irvin Yalom has joined their ranks' Erica Jong 'Dr Yalom offers a valuable insight into the delicate process of therapy' Sunday Telegraph 'Dr Yalom is unusually honest, both with his patients and about himself' Anthony Storr 'Yalom is a gifted storyteller, and from the sound of these tales, a no-less-gifted psychotherapist' Los Angeles Times


Spiritually Integrated Psychotherapy

I see parts of scripture about God's love that I never saw before” (p. 72). ... I focus on one of his cases from his book Love's Executioner, not to illustrate how spiritually integrated therapy can reduce the number of therapeutic An ...

Author: Kenneth I. Pargament

Publisher: Guilford Press

ISBN: 146250261X

Category: Psychology

Page: 384

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From a leading researcher and practitioner, this volume provides an innovative framework for understanding the role of spirituality in people's lives and its relevance to the work done in psychotherapy. It offers fresh, practical ideas for creating a spiritual dialogue with clients, assessing spirituality as a part of their problems and solutions, and helping them draw on spiritual resources in times of stress. Written from a nonsectarian perspective, the book encompasses both traditional and nontraditional forms of spirituality. It is grounded in current findings from psychotherapy research and the psychology of religion, and includes a wealth of evocative case material.


Counseling and Psychotherapy Theories in Context and Practice

In his book Love's Executioner, Yalom (1989) complains of working with clients who are in love: I do not like to work with patients who are in love. Perhaps it is because of envy—I, too, crave enchantment. Perhaps it is because love and ...

Author: John Sommers-Flanagan

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

ISBN: 1119087910

Category: Psychology

Page: 592

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Apply the major psychotherapy theories into practice with this comprehensive text Counseling and Psychotherapy Theories in Context and Practice: Skills, Strategies, and Techniques, 2nd Edition is an in-depth guide that provides useful learning aids, instructions for ongoing assessment, and valuable case studies. More than just a reference, this approachable resource highlights practical applications of theoretical concepts, covering both theory and technique with one text. Easy to read and with engaging information that has been recently revised to align with the latest in industry best practices, this book is the perfect resource for graduate level counseling theory courses in counselor education, marriage and family therapy, counseling psychology, and clinical psychology. Included with each copy of the text is an access code to the online Video Resource Center (VRC). The VRC features eleven videos—each one covering a different therapeutic approach using real therapists and clients, not actors. These videos provide a perfect complement to the book by showing what the different theories look like in practice. The Second Edition features: New chapters on Family Systems Theory and Therapy as well as Gestalt Theory and Therapy Extended case examples in each of the twelve Theory chapters A treatment planning section that illustrates how specific theories can be used in problem formulation, specific interventions, and potential outcomes assessment Deeper and more continuous examination of gender and cultural issues An evidence-based status section in each Theory chapter focusing on what we know from the scientific research, with the goal of developing critical thinking skills A new section on Outcome Measures that provides ideas on how client outcomes can be tracked using practice-based evidence Showcasing the latest research, theory, and evidence-based practice in an engaging and relatable style, Counseling and Psychotherapy Theories in Context and Practice is an illuminating text with outstanding practical value.

The Courage to Love Surviving and Thriving in Your Relationship

Do not be love's executioner. Do not imprison love. Do not fear love. Love is an embracing of sorrow and the vulnerability of death. To give expression to love means to give expression to longing, need and desire.

Author: Colm O'Connor

Publisher: Gill & Macmillan Ltd

ISBN: 0717158179

Category: Body, Mind & Spirit

Page: 256

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Dr Colm O’Connor, a clinical psychologist and couples therapist, has for over twenty years explored the emotional lives of couples and researched hundreds of cases of couples in distress. Looking beneath the surface of everyday complaints, The Courage to Love reveals those insights and shows how we seek solutions to life’s most essential questions in close relationships. It answers common questions that we often ask such as: ‘Why do we constantly argue about trivial things?’ ‘Why do we have to win an argument at all?’ ‘Why is it that we often forget what it is we end up fighting about?’ ‘How is it that love can deteriorate into abuse?’ In answering these kinds of questions, Dr O’Connor shows what is ultimately at stake for people in winning an argument, starting a fight, proving a point, triumphing in divorce, or abusing a lover, and presents a range of solutions that are not about how to control relationships but how to inhabit them. Painting a dramatic portrait of love as a heroic response to human vulnerability, The Courage to Love shines new light on how relationship breakdown happens and provides a guide for getting back on track.

The Laws of Wealth

I hate to be love's executioner.” So says Dr. Irvin Yalom, Stanford professor and the author of, in this shrink's humble estimation, some of the finest books on psychology produced in the last 50 years. While Yalom's pronouncements here ...

Author: Daniel Crosby

Publisher: Jaico Publishing House

ISBN: 9391019781

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Erotic Transference and Countertransference

Whether he / she loves the therapist because of a sense of ' absolute unselfishness ' on the therapist's part ... About one year into the therapy , he brought into the session the book Love's Executioner and , on exploration ...

Author: David Mann

Publisher: Psychology Press

ISBN: 9780415184533

Category: Psychology

Page: 180

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Erotic Transference and Countertransference brings together, for the first time, contemporary views on how psychotherapists and analysts work with and think about the erotic in therapeutic practice. Representing a broad spectrum of psychoanalytic perspectives, including object relations, Kleinian, Jungian and Lacanian thought, the contributors highlight similarities and differences in their approaches to the erotic in transference and countertransference, ranging from love and sexual desire to perverse and psychotic manifestations. Erotic Transference and Countertransference offers ways of understanding the erotic which should prove both useful and thought-provoking.

Theories of School Counseling for the 21st Century

Suggested Reading: Yalom's Loves Executioner: & Other Tales of Psychotherapy is the book I (Brian Hutchison) first read when exploring the idea of becoming a counselor. A description is found at https://www.amazon.com/ ...

Author: Colette T. Dollarhide

Publisher: Oxford University Press

ISBN: 0190840269

Category: Education

Page: 288

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In 2002, the American School Counselor Association presented the ASCA National Model for school counseling programs as a framework for implementing best practices in training counselors to deliver effective evidence-based approaches for K-12 students. Without a unifying theory of practice, school counselors are often uncertain about how to implement the National Model. Considering school counselors' professional role under the National Model, Theories of School Counseling for the 21st Century offers readers a compilation of contemporary, cutting-edge theoretical models to inform the way school counselors practice the art and science of school counseling.

I m Calling the Police

First, there was Love's Executioner, a book of stories meant to be teaching tales for psychotherapists. And, in fact, every book I've written since then has been meant to be a teaching novel or a teaching book of stories.

Author: Irvin D. Yalom

Publisher: Hachette UK

ISBN: 0465022162

Category: Psychology

Page: 64

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"Something heavy is going on -- the past is erupting -- my two lives, night and day, are joining. I need to talk." Irv Yalom's old medical school friend was making a plea for help. In their fifty years of friendship, Bob Berger had never divulged his nocturnal terrors to his close comrade. Now, finally, he found himself forced to. In I'm Calling the Police, Berger recounts to Yalom the anguish of a war-torn past: By pretending he was a Christian, Berger survived the Holocaust. But after a life defined by expiation and repression, a dangerous encounter has jarred loose the painful memory of those years. Together, they interpret the fragments of the horrific past that haunt his dreams. I'm Calling the Police is a powerful exploration of Yalom's most vital themes -- memory, fear, love, and healing -- and a glimpse into the life of the man himself.

Understanding Clergy Misconduct in Religious Systems

Perhaps this sounds a bit like “love's executioner,” 10 but in reality, of course, love is a multidimensional thing, a very small part of which may be “chemistry” and a very large part of which entails patience, sacrifice, ...

Author: Candace R. Benyei

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 131779043X

Category: Religion

Page: 222

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In Understanding Clergy Misconduct in Religious Systems, you’ll take an incisive look at why sexual misconduct occurs in religious systems and how to implement proactive strategies for holistic change. Applicable to both Jewish and Christian communities, this illuminating exploration takes a look at the psychology behind scapegoating, why it is perpetuated, and how you can quell the damaging tradition of silence. Understanding Clergy Misconduct in Religious Systems helps you see leaders of religious institutions in a way that the world has been afraid to see them--in a glass clearly. Enriched with metaphoric myths and fairy tales instead of technical jargon, its unique systemic perspective reveals the psychodynamics behind the obsession with family secrets and lets you understand this dysfunction from the perspectives of victim, abuser, and counselor. These specific areas will both inform and aid you in dealing with this difficult subject: the religious institution as a family system the religious system as an illusion of the perfect family the concept of God-transference and the overidealization of clergy clergy personal relationships and clergy congregational relationships vulnerability and the psychology of the victim strategies for healing dysfunctional religious systems Understanding Clergy Misconduct in Religious Systems comes at just the right time--in an era when little has been written on the subject, especially from a systemic perspective, this work comes at a time when the phenomena of clergy sexual misconduct has rocked the very foundation of religious systems worldwide. Whether you’re a lay congregational leader, judicatory administrator, pastoral counselor, psychologist, or seminarian, you’ll find that the coping strategies and intervention techniques it outlines will guide you in pinpointing the sickness at its source and restoring felicity and order to your religious leaders and their communities.

The Psychoanalysis of Career Choice Job Performance and Satisfaction

Too much reliance on rationally assessing realistic qualities of the love object can be love's executioner. It is also fundamentally ill-conceived to use reason as the only, or even the primary, methodology for decision-making, ...

Author: Paul Marcus

Publisher: Taylor & Francis

ISBN: 1315452529

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 254

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Freud said that "love and work" are the central therapeutic goals of psychoanalysis; the twin pillars for a sound mind and for living the "good life." While psychoanalysis has masterfully contributed to understanding the experience of love, it has only made a modest contribution to understanding the psychology of work. This book is the first to explore fully the psychoanalysis of work, analysing career choice, job performance and job satisfaction, with an eye toward helping people make wiser choices that bring out the best in themselves, their colleagues and their organization. The book addresses the crucial questions concerning work: how does one choose the right career; what qualities contribute to excellence in performance; how best to implement and cope with organizational change; and what capacity and skills does one need to enjoy every day work? Drawing on psychoanalytic thinking, vocational counseling, organizational psychology and business studies, The Psychoanalysis of Career Choice, Job Performance, and Satisfaction will be invaluable in clinical psychoanalytic work, as well as for mental health professionals, scholars, career counselors and psychologists looking for a deeper understanding of work-based issues.

Desire

The good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles on inspection. I hate to be love's executioner. —Stanford psychiatrist Irvin D. Yalom ...

Author: Susan Cheever

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1416594361

Category: Psychology

Page: 192

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We've all felt the giddy flutter of excitement when our new lover walks into the room. Waited by the phone, changed our plans...But are we in love, or is there something darker at work? In Desire: Where Sex Meets Addiction, Susan Cheever explores the shifting boundaries between the feelings of passion and addiction, desire and need, and she raises provocative and important questions about who we love and why. Elegantly written and thoughtfully composed, Cheever's book combines unsparing and intimate memoir, interviews and stories, hard science and psychology to explore the difference between falling in love and falling prey to an addiction. Part one defines what addiction is and how it works -- the obsession, the betrayals, the broken promises to oneself and others. Part two explores the possible causes of addiction -- is it nature or nurture, a permanent condition or a temporary derangement? Part three considers what we can do about it, including a provocative suggestion about how we describe and treat addiction, and a look at the importance of community and storytelling. In the end, there are no easy answers. "A straight look about some crooked feelings," Desire shows us the difference between the addiction that cripples our emotions, and healthy, empowering love that enhances our lives.

The Gift Of Therapy Revised And Updated Edition

This is an entertaining, informative and insightful read for both beginners and more experienced therapists, patients, students and everyone with an interest in the subject.

Author: Irvin D. Yalom

Publisher: Hachette UK

ISBN: 0748128212

Category: Psychology

Page: 336

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THE GIFT OF THERAPY is the culmination of master psychiatrist Dr Irvin Yalom's thirty-five years' work as a therapist, illustrating through real case studies how patients and therapists alike can get the most out of therapy. Presented as eighty-five 'tips' for 'beginner therapists', Yalom shares his own fresh approach and the insights he has gained while treating his patients. Personal, and sometimes provocative, Yalom makes some unorthodox suggestions, including: Let the patient matter to you; Acknowledge your errors; Create a new therapy for each patient; Make home visits; (Almost) never make decisions for a patient; and Freud was not always wrong. This is an entertaining, informative and insightful read for both beginners and more experienced therapists, patients, students and everyone with an interest in the subject.

Creatures of a Day

The power of these stories is amplified by Yalom's reflections on his own life as he reckons with its inevitable end.

Author: Irvin D. Yalom

Publisher: Hachette UK

ISBN: 0349407436

Category: Psychology

Page: 224

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What makes life worth living? What can we do to lead meaningful lives? And how do we confront our inevitable end? In his long career, eminent psychotherapist and author Irvin Yalom has pressed his patients and readers to grapple with life's two greatest challenges: that we all must die, and that each of us is responsible for leading a life worth living. In Creatures of a Day, he and his patients face the difficulty of these challenges. Although these people have come to Yalom seeking relief, recognition, or meaning, he and they discover that such things are rarely found in the places where we think to look. Like Love's Executioner and Yalom's other writing, Creatures of a Day provides an intelligent, compassionate, yet still unflinching look at the human soul and all the pain, confusion, and hope that go with it. The power of these stories is amplified by Yalom's reflections on his own life as he reckons with its inevitable end. Suffused with humor, great artistry, and a profound humanity, Creatures of a Day lays bare the necessary task we each face, each day, to make our own lives meaningful.

Couples on the Fault Line

In Love's Executioner , Irvin Yalom ( 1996 ) presents a fascinating case of a 70 - year - old woman who falls in love with a younger man . Yalom describes how he overcame his own ageism during the process of doing therapy with her .

Author: Peggy Papp

Publisher: Guilford Press

ISBN: 9781572307056

Category: Psychology

Page: 344

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Edited by a renowned family therapist, this book brings together prominent marital and family therapists to explore the new challenges and opportunities facing couples and the clinicians who work with them. The volume presents a range of approaches to helping couples reconsider and reorder their life priorities around parenting, marriage, and other stages of life.

The Contemporary Freudian Tradition

He then spoke of the book he was reading entitled Love's Executioner written by a therapist, with tales of therapy. He thought of how he tries to control what happens here whilst he knows that to use it, he needs to be as open as ...

Author: Ken Robinson

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1000197514

Category: Psychology

Page: 370

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This is the first book dedicated to the Contemporary Freudian Tradition. In its introduction, and through its selection of papers, it describes the development and rich diversity of this tradition over recent decades, showing how theory and practice are inseparable in the psychoanalytic treatment of children, adolescents and adults. The book is organized around four major concerns in the Contemporary Freudian Tradition: the nature of the Unconscious and the ways that it manifests itself; the extension of Freud’s theories of development through the work of Anna Freud and later theorists; the body and psychosexuality, including the centrality of bodily experience as it is elaborated over time in the life of the individual; and aggression. It also illustrates how within the Tradition different exponents have been influenced by psychoanalytic thinking outside it, whether from the Kleinian and Independent Groups, or from French Freudian thinking. Throughout the book there is strong emphasis on the clinical setting, in, for example, the value of the Tradition’s approach to the complex interrelationship of body and mind in promoting a deeper understanding of somatic symptoms and illnesses and working with them. There are four papers on the subject of dreams within the Contemporary Freudian Tradition, illustrating the continuing importance accorded to dreams and dreaming in psychoanalytic treatment. This is the only book that describes in detail the family resemblances shared by those working psychoanalytically within the richly diverse Contemporary Freudian Tradition. It should appeal to anyone, from student onwards, who is interested in the living tradition of Freud’s work as understood by one of the three major groups within British psychoanalysis.